Let’s face it…Marriage isn’t easy. Maybe your marriage is at a point where it’s far from easy, and it feels broken. It’s not easy to fix a broken marriage, let alone fix it on your own. In this post, I want to show you how to save your marriage alone.
Is it possible to save your marriage on your own? What I mean is, is it possible to get your marriage back on track when YOU are the only one who seems to care about putting it back together?
The answer? YES!
Can You Save Your Marriage Alone?
Never make assumptions about why your partner does not seem to be trying to save your relationship. It could be a number of reasons, but most likely he or she may be in a place where they have lost hope that the marriage can improve. They may be depressed or simply removed from the situation to avoid feeling hurt. The good news is, it is absolutely possible for you to save your relationship if you are the only one working on it. The best part is you can do it without crying, begging or threatening your spouse. All you need is to learn a few important keys to how to save your marriage alone, even if you can’t imagine it right now.
Why do you want to save your marriage?
It’s probably tough to come up with a reason to save your marriage right now. You’re probably fighting, arguing a lot, or sometimes worse…giving each other the silent treatment.
Maybe when you think about your partner, you feel angry rather than happy. You are mad that they don’t want to fight! Try to see past this. You married this person for a reason. Remember what you’re fighting for:
- You want to spend your life with this person
- You are in love with your partner
- Your spouse is someone pretty special
Try to keep in mind what made you fall in love with him or her in the first place. How did they make you feel? What was it like before you started having problems? What are some of the nice things he or she used to do for you?
Don’t Forget the Basics
A lot of the time, married couples begin to compete against each other rather than support each other. This can happen with parenting, careers, or anything in general. Now, think about a best friend. When they are feeling sad or down, do you pick up the phone and talk to them? Of course you do! You support them through life’s problems.
Have you done this for your spouse?
It’s easy to forget that you and your partner are friends first. Take a look at your marriage and see if you and your spouse have forgotten that you’re friends AND lovers. If you find that you haven’t been that great of a friend, change how you talk to your spouse and you might find out that his behavior might change too.
Love YOU First
I probably should have put this section first, simply because it is THAT important. It might be the most important facet of saving your marriage alone. A giant part of saving your relationship is having a strong relationship with yourself first. A healthy marriage requires that each individual is healthy!
You may think to yourself that the reason you are unhappy is that your marriage is unhappy. But is this really true? Your relationship cannot be your only source of happiness. You have your own interests – perhaps children, pets, and other things that contribute to your happiness. Chances are that your actions are creating a negative environment where any happiness has trouble existing, let alone a happy marriage.
How are things going in your personal life besides your marriage? Are you happy in your job? Are you happy with your children? Do you feel good about your appearance? Do you feel depressed or down?
The truth of the matter is, your lack of happiness may be affecting much more than your marriage. It takes true healing and self-love to create inner peace and happiness. Once you have this happiness, you have the ability to heal a broken marriage by becoming the best version of you.
Even if your partner doesn’t want to work on your marriage, there are many things you can do to win him or her back. Remembering that you are a friend first and foremost, and remembering why you fell in love in the first place is a great place to start when starting the process of rebuilding your life together.
The most important piece of the puzzle is that you work on yourself before you work on your marriage. Improving yourself will create a better life for you, with or without your spouse.
I know that eventually, it takes two people to save a marriage. You’ll both have to come to the table to become happy again. The key is to take action, and you can do that alone before your partner ever knows you’ve started to work on changing things.
With that, not all relationships are worth saving. You may be stuck in an abusive marriage, physical or emotional, and the best course of action is to walk away.
Before you toss in the towel and split up your family, give yourself the gift of watching this training that I created specifically for you. You’ll see just how fast you can turn your marriage around.